before moving to NYC I dreamed of a Friends like apartment where hanging out with friends was casual and a part of life. my grandfather always asks me this question: "Who's house can you turn up at, without notice, and eat dinner?" I think this is a really important question because it signifies the love and openness of a bestfriendship.
love that i can read this so clearly in your voice. an important read and reminder to myself (!!!) to allow spontaneity, especially with friends. one of my fondest memories from this year was when my friends (a married couple) picked me up after an event for dinner. totally unplanned, just a spur of the moment thing, but such a cherished moment for me.
While this has been a hot topic on social media lately, I’m reading this from the lens of my own lack of “bestfriendship” in my day to day life. I have long distance best friends, but none that are currently weaved into my life in a way that feels significant. One year living in the city and my social circle is growing slowly, but relationships take time. I am also trying not to become resentful of my friends who are too busy to hang out, but I’m yearning for the ones who actually want to make and stick to plans. Are we all just on the internet shouting into an echo chamber? I have to imagine not. Anyways, lots of random thought, but I enjoyed this read!
Reading this reminded me that every cherished memory I have with my closest friends was a spontaneous, low pressure, last minute get together that ended in beautiful conversation. I always felt like I walked away knowing so much more about my friends, and feeling the warm embrace of intimacy. I’ve now moved to a new city, and it’s been hard to put into words this feeling that I crave from my new friendships, and what the recipe for that is, but this helped summarize it so beautifully. Thank you so much for this ♥️
before moving to NYC I dreamed of a Friends like apartment where hanging out with friends was casual and a part of life. my grandfather always asks me this question: "Who's house can you turn up at, without notice, and eat dinner?" I think this is a really important question because it signifies the love and openness of a bestfriendship.
This is so fucking important and I enjoyed reading this very much.
love that i can read this so clearly in your voice. an important read and reminder to myself (!!!) to allow spontaneity, especially with friends. one of my fondest memories from this year was when my friends (a married couple) picked me up after an event for dinner. totally unplanned, just a spur of the moment thing, but such a cherished moment for me.
While this has been a hot topic on social media lately, I’m reading this from the lens of my own lack of “bestfriendship” in my day to day life. I have long distance best friends, but none that are currently weaved into my life in a way that feels significant. One year living in the city and my social circle is growing slowly, but relationships take time. I am also trying not to become resentful of my friends who are too busy to hang out, but I’m yearning for the ones who actually want to make and stick to plans. Are we all just on the internet shouting into an echo chamber? I have to imagine not. Anyways, lots of random thought, but I enjoyed this read!
You’re a genius.
Reading this reminded me that every cherished memory I have with my closest friends was a spontaneous, low pressure, last minute get together that ended in beautiful conversation. I always felt like I walked away knowing so much more about my friends, and feeling the warm embrace of intimacy. I’ve now moved to a new city, and it’s been hard to put into words this feeling that I crave from my new friendships, and what the recipe for that is, but this helped summarize it so beautifully. Thank you so much for this ♥️
YES so good !!
Needed this one.
I enjoyed reading this so much